Being Pulled Down

What I’m writing about is something that everyone has experienced sometime or the other in their lives. When you start doing well, you feel good, start enjoying life and think that everything is under control. You start feeling that time is on your side and you will make it big in life. It’s like walking on lush green grass with a cool breeze blowing away your troubles.

As soon as you reach such a tranquil phase people around you start feeling jealous and leave no stone unturned to ‘pull you down’. The sole reason is competition and the opportunities available are far less than the millions running in the ‘rat race’. Due to the immense competition people generally are not able to digest the fact that someone is doing better than him. The principle of relativity comes into place here and I quote “An individual’s success is another’s failure”.

Everywhere people talk about how dejected an individual gets on failing and what he goes through, how he should take it in his stride and consider the failure to be a pillar of success. But nowhere does anyone talk about the other side of the story.

The individual who fails tries his level best to bring the other down by resorting to all kind of means. No matter how much an individual says that I’m happy to know that you are doing so well or happy to know about your achievements very few actually mean it. They start thinking as to why him or her and why not me.

Then comes the phase where the person who’s failed indulges in speaking ill about the one who’s succeeded and spreads rubbish about him because he himself cannot take it. In today’s world people say that what nonsense others talk about you shouldn’t really matter to you but when people do speak rubbish you tend to lose out on the tranquil phase of mind and get lost in it. How much ever you say that all this does not affect me it still does. It may not completely bring you down but does hinder your free thought process and diminishes your confidence a lot.

With such a loss in your confidence level it becomes very difficult for one to concentrate in whatever he’s doing and hence starts messing up his work, his personal and social life too. With something like this happening an individual completely loses it, feels dejected and thinks that even after doing well he is not accepted among his peers and society.

The only way to get out of this is to keep doing what you love doing and not worry about the others, if you’re doing something that like doing and succeed then the sense of accomplishment of the task is more than enough to keep you going. Another important aspect is to stick to what you believe in and follow it religiously. Following this would surely help in climbing the stairs back up to the tranquil phase and when people see the means they’ve adopted to pull you down have failed they will stop and eventually will have to come and pat your back because now you’ve not just won the battle but have won the war too.